Here’s something that will happen to you……. you’re going to experience chaos in your life. You might not want it to happen and that’s just the point - chaos is part of life, especially when you get a dose of the transitions.
It could be a death in the family, a divorce, a change in your job situation or business situation. All of them will make you believe your life has been turned upside down.
Here are some easy things you can do to help with a transition you could be going through:
Stop and breathe.
This is the most important thing you can do. Too often when we’re going through a dramatic change and we feel lots of tension we stop breathing. When we do this long enough our brains get frozen and we make really bad decisions.
One of the best ways of remembering to breath is to start a practice of meditation. No, you don’t have to sit on a pillow, smell incense or listen to Buddhist temple gongs…..You just need to sit quietly for 10 to 15 minutes at a time and notice your breath. After you do this for a while, you’ll start to remember to breath when chaos threatens to overtake your life.
Remember your IQ is probably going to drop.
When you’re going through a significant transition in your life your IQ will drop. It could drop as much as 30%.
If you find your mind is a little fuzzy while you’re going through a major life transition, join the club. We all feel a little fuzzy and out of sorts when a major transition is happening.
Just know that making major decisions while this is going on isn’t the best path for you to take. It’s OK for you to put off major decisions to get your bearings again. In fact, it’s better than OK, it’s what you should do.
There aren’t many things you need to be in a hurry about.
When a major transition happens you’ll be inclined to make decisions that would be better put off for a while. Really, is there a reason why you need to make a fast major decision?
Most of the time major decisions that are made too quickly come from outside pressure. If you’re feeling that just tell those who are pressuring you to back off. In many cases there isn’t a good reason to rush when making any decision, much less a major one.
Tell those around you that you need time and it’s not the right time for a decision you’re being pressured to make.
Tune out the outside noise.
We all have enough internal noise running around in our brains. A successful transition requires that you stop listening to un-requested advice that you’re likely getting from those around you.
Remember, much of that advice will be from others point of view and won’t necessarily be in your best interest. You’re just going to have to find a way to turn off the outside noise until you’re thinking and feeling your decisions are good ones again.
Find a good thinking partner.
I think this is the key to helping you overcome any chaos you might be feeling. A good thinking partners is someone who will ask you questions but not necessarily give you their opinion.
You might find it difficult to find someone who’s a good thinking partner. If this is the case, then make sure you tell the person you’re speaking with what a good thinking partner is and what specifically you want them to do.
For more information on thinking partners, click here.
Remember to breathe.
Ah, we’re back to breathing again. This is something that I just can’t emphasize enough. Breathing will allow you to make wise decisions. It’s the most important thing you can do when you feel the world is falling down around your shoulders……and, it’s very difficult to remember, especially when you’re in the middle of a crisis.
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