This seems to be human nature. We all like to believe we don’t like change. At the same time we get pretty good at it once we start. Here are some things that might be keeping you from doing what you know is in your best interest.
You’ve spent lots of time and effort getting to where you are.All of us have learned certain things during our life. We’ve probably even gotten pretty good at doing many of these things. Sometimes the things we’ve learned aren’t able to help us move forward in what we want in life. Sometimes it’s time to learn something new.
In 1995 when I was 44 years old I decided the food service business was not the best place for me. I sold my business and had to learn a bunch of new skills. I spent the next four years getting all sorts of licenses and certifications. This work has allowed me to have a career that has turned out to be much more satisfying than running my vending company. Had I not dumped the twenty years of experience and learned new things I never would have had the pleasure of doing what I do now.
You might not be successful if you try something new.I get this. If you try something new you might not be very good at it. This is almost a guarantee. You’re going to have to try and learn and try again.
The key with trying something new is to not go all in. If you’re going to try something new take small steps. If you’re successful with small steps and you like the new you, keep going. If you’re not successful, take a step back and ask yourself what didn’t work.
This is where one of my favorites sayings is true, “Fail fast, fail cheap.” Build on your success. It’s an easy way to change.
Take small steps not big ones.This is important: You don’t want to spend two years planning for a huge change and then have it not work. Part of fail fast, fail cheap is taking small steps. If you take a small step and it doesn’t work out, it’s not big deal. You just try something new. If you’ve put tons of time, energy, and money into something you’re not likely going to call it quits. You’re going to want to keep going, even when you know this is a really dumb thing to do.
You don’t want to look dumb.Speaking of looking dumb, none of want to do this. It’s unfortunate our society doesn’t love mistakes. Think back to when you were little kid learning to ride a bike. I bet the first time you got on your bike you looked pretty dumb. I bet you even fell off a few times.
I also bet you didn’t stop. You really wanted to learn to ride your bike. After all if you learned, you would have lots of freedom. You could get places on your bike that would take too long to walk. Think about this with your life today. If you want to get someplace new, you’re going to have to look at least a little dumb to get there.
Your friends, family, or co-workers think it’s a bad idea.
Peer pressure is a terrible thing. We don’t want to look like we’re out of step with our friends and co-workers. We don’t want to be the one who’s always saying that things need to change or we’re doing it wrong. We’re afraid that if we do this people won’t want to hang out with us anymore.
Sometimes we have to believe we’re right even if the rest of the world doesn’t agree with us. It’s part of the deal. If you’re going to have a great life you can’t always go along with what others think. If you do, you’re living their life and not yours.
I know that I like to fit in. I also know that there have been times in my life where I had to strike out on my own. Sometimes even the people I used to hang out with decided I wasn’t like them. That can be a challenge. Change can be really painful if it means losing your friends. Sometimes losing those friends is a good thing.
The world is a different place today than it was even five years ago. It’ll likely be different five years from now. Learning how to handle and do change is an important life skill. Take small steps towards where you want to be. You’ll be glad you did.
We’ve got a great workbook for change. It’s the the WIT book. (When in transition) This workbook will help you move through changes in your life and make plans that help you get to where you want to be. To get your copy of this workbook, click on the button below.