We live in a time where things can easily be turned upside down. What we thought was true today may not be tomorrow. What was supposed to only happen once in two hundred years happens three times in five years. You get the idea. What we used to think would never change changes all of the time.
Learn how to breathe.
When the unexpected happens you probably get tight. You might even forget to breathe, or at least breathe really shallowly. The worst thing you can do in an emergency is to panic. When you stop breathing you’re panicking.
You might want to practice this. Notice when your chest gets tight. When this happens as it does for all of us practice taking several deep breaths. You’ll find that whatever is bothering you will bother you less.
The unexpected is the new normal.
Stop thinking things will go back to the way they used to be. That’s not going to happen. The new normal is that the unexpected will happen. It could be with your job, it could be with your spouse, your children, or even your business.
People will do things that appear to be aimed at you. Most of the time it has nothing at all to do with you. You’re just the collateral damage of what’s going on someplace else.
I can’t tell you what your new normal is going to be. I can only tell you that it’ll change and often it’ll change at the worst possible time.
If you know it’s coming don’t pretend it won’t.
Lots of times a period of uncertainty is headed our way and we know it well in advance. If your significant other gets a terminal disease you know it’s coming. If you believe your marriage is on the rocks, it likely is.
In the short term it’s easier dealing with it when it comes. In the long term if you deal with the new before it gets here, the change is much less painful.
Have a plan B in place all of the time.
When you know a time of uncertainty is coming at you start making plans. In fact don’t make one plan make at least two. If your first idea doesn’t work out, you have something to fall back on. I’ve found that having a plan B in place has helped me get through some very difficult spots.
Don’t forget to ask for help.
This is the biggest one. When life is tough ask for help. I have some friends who are going through a very tough time right now. It seems they keep closing themselves off from help from others. If we didn’t offer, I don’t think they would ask and that’s too bad.
I know that when I find real periods of uncertainty there are always people who will help. At the same time if I don’t open my mouth and ask that help never arrives. Don’t wait, ask for help. You’ll be glad you did.
We have a workbook call the WIT workbook. (When in transitions) If you think a period of uncertainty is coming into your life you’ll want to take a look at this. Even if you don’t have a period of uncertainty entering your life, pretending you do is always a good exercise. To get this workbook, click on the button below.