Dan Sullivan has a question he calls his R2 question. It goes like this, “If we were to get together three, five, or ten years from now, what would have had to have happened for you to feel like you’ve been successful?” I want you to stop reading right now, take out a pen and answer this question.
Are you done yet? What did you learn?
You noticed the question is what would have had to happen didn’t you?
Most of the goal type questions I see ask where you want to be at the end of the time frame you’re measuring. This question asks you what has to happen along the way, what sort of changes needs to occur, and what will be different for you.
I think these deeper questions are important. The questions start working towards putting you in a position to answer why.
Step 2: ask why until you have a great answer.
You have an answer. Do you know if it’s a good answer? I would guess that it’s probably better than other goals you’ve written before. Here’s how you make it a great answer; ask why and keep asking why until you have a core answer.
Where you want to be and what would make you feel successful is important. Why you want to do this will give you reasons to keep going when things get tough. And, things always get tough.
This allows you to start evaluate what’s important in your life.
Going through step one and step two will start to let you look at what’s important in your life. If you have a personal mission statement you can compare where you want to be to your mission. If both are congruent keep going. If not, you should examine your statements or your mission. One of them isn’t going to work. If both aren’t congruent you’re going to probably stumble along the way.
Your answers should tell you what’s important.
Too often we stumble through life. Taking a little time to examine what your definition of success is and why it’s your definition will help you examine what’s important. I know that before I started doing these exercises I would stumble from one idea to another. Now, I know what’s important and I need to pay attention to. The rest I get to let pass by.
You do need to share this information with those who are important in your life.
I know this is the hard part. It can be a little embarrassing to share what’s important in your life. When I first started doing this I felt a little silly. I think that if you take the risk you’ll find that those who matter won’t laugh at you. They might even decide they want to get on board and help.
If you start sharing what’s important, you can ask others to do the same. I know that when I do this life gets better. After, all isn’t that what it’s all about?
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