I’ve been reading Rising Strong by Brene Brown and there was a section that really hit home with me. The section was about people doing the best they can. Her follow up statement was then when I believe that, (meaning we believe others are doing the best they can) her life is better.
That statement made me take a step back and really examine how I live my life and whether I believe that or I like to blame others for not doing the best they can. That’s what I want to spend a few minutes writing about today.
What do you believe?
This is a question I want you to ponder. Do you believe others are always doing the best they can or do you believe that many times they can do much better?
In my experience others are doing the best they can and it’s our job to help them do that. Too often we put roadblocks in how keep others from being their best. What type of road blocks do you put up if any?
I know that when I was younger, I never believed people were doing the best they can. I spent an awful lot of time blaming others for things they did wrong. Instead, my life and theirs would have been better had I asked what I could do to help. That’s something I know can improve your life.
What would happen if you believed people are doing the best they can?
This is the crux of this post. Our purpose at Stage 2 Planning is to help those we work with have a better life. Or, as we say in our mission statement, “Our purpose is to help make our clients’ lives better.”
A good way we can do this is to believe people are doing the best they can and then help you examine what that means in your life. This comes from asking you good questions to help you develop strategies that not only allows you to do the best you can but also think about different ways of living your life.
I know that when I believe people are doing the best they can, my life is better. I don’t spend time and effort blaming them for things that happen. Instead, I ask what I can do to help them find different strategies if that’s necessary or more often, just accept for people the way they are.
What if doing the best they can isn’t good enough?
This is a question that business owners or managers would have to ask. When I see this question, I go to Jim Collins mantra of having the right person in the right seat. Assuming that the person you’re working or associating with has a value system you like, ask yourself do you have them in the correct role? And, are you getting the performance you need?
If the answer is no, then it’s time for you to either move the person to another job or role in your life or have them leave. If doing their best isn’t good enough, then you’ll be doing both of you a favor by making a change. Believe me, they already know there’s a problem and often there will be a sigh of relief when you bring the issue into the open.
So, what do you do with this information now you’ve read it?
Here’s what I would like you to do. I would like you to spend a few minutes thinking about this post. I want you to ask yourself, “Is it possible for me to believe others are doing the best they can?” If the answer is yes, see how saying yes to this more often will make your life better.
If your answer is no, I would like you to ask why you believe this? If you still think it’s no, look at how time you spend blaming others for their issues or justifying why you are acting in a particular way.
What do you think about this idea of everyone always doing the best they can? Let me know what you think in the comments below.
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