I have this vision in my head of a person named Hard Charging Harry. You see, Harry has this problem. He’s obsessed with having numeric goals and then doing anything he can to get there.
I used to be Hard Charging Harry. I was goal obsessed with numeric goals I was always chasing. I bet you might be in that place as well.
Over the years I’ve learned that being one who is goal obsessed is not the best way to live a great life.
Today we will talk about some reasons being goal obsessed makes no sense.
Think about the infinite game instead of a finite game.
Simon Sinek’s new book is titled The Infinite Game. In the book he talks about two types of organizations. There is the finite organization or game. That would be a sport where there is a winner or loser. Then, there’s the infinite game where the games goes for ever. The infinite game is our life, family and our business.
When you use numeric goals in an infinite game, you move your game to a finite game and a finite game is not a good fit for your families or your business. When you set a numeric goal, you are saying an activity is a winner or a loser.
Too often I see people like you make yourself into a loser, when in fact you really are a winner.
Better is way more effective than a numeric goal.
I used to live my life with numeric goals. I would focus on the short-term result to the detriment of everything else in my life. I bet you’ve done that at least once or twice in your life.
I now look at the word better as the best way to set a goal. Better could be a number, but it usually is just moving the needle a little in your life.
Getting rid of the stretch goal in your life.
With changing a numeric or finite goal for better or an infinite goal, you find that you take away the dreaded stretch goal. You see, the stretch goal is a trap. Most of the time you will not hit it. When that happens you’ve made yourself into a loser and the self-talk that you have will be negative.
I want you to have a positive conversation with yourself. Maybe better was only a tiny improvement. Often this is the best that we can do. Then, there are the times where better can be a quantum jump. This is where knowing there is no finish line just a journey will help you have a happier and more fulfilling life.
With an infinite game you get to enjoy the trip.
Too often I see people who use numeric goals only focus on the goal. I used to be one of those people. I would breeze by all the cool things happening in my life and only focus on the end goal. This is not something I want for you. I want you to enjoy the trip. I want you to focus on what’s happening now and not something that may or may not happen in the future.
There are times people like you have told me that when it comes to vacations, they really enjoy planning the trip more than going on the trip. Has that ever happened to you? If so, you have an example of enjoying the journey of what a trip entails. Without that mindset, you might come to dread planning and not realize how much fun it can be.
When you focus on numeric goals, you don’t know what your real potential is.
This is a big deal. When you use numeric goals or a finite mindset, you’re limiting what you can do. Every once in a while you’ll be working on a project or an idea and you’ll get a result you could never have hoped for.
It’s happened with me and I’m sure that there are times you’ve had a result you didn’t expect and it didn’t come from setting an arbitrary goal.
So, what do you think? Are you willing to experiment with letting your mind go wild? Are you willing to join the infinite world and stop short term thinking? If you do, I believe you’ll get rewards you never could have expected.
Why don’t you scroll down and let me know what you think about the world of infinite thinking and letting goal of the numeric goals in your life?
While you’re at it, drop the New Years Resolutions. They don’t serve you well and it’s a trap to just make you feel badly about yourself.