One of the friendships I value the most is mine with Peter Asch and his family. There isn’t a group of people I have more respect for. Both of Peter’s parents are great role models.
When Sam (my son) is overseas, they are always ready with a positive word. When I’ve needed some advice, they have been there and been more than generous with their time. Having a relationship with the Asch family has made my life much richer.
Recently, Peter Asch made a posting on Facebook that was so good I just had to share it with you. Although this parable is not actually a real story from the Asch family, it certainly could be. It fits in with my experience with this family.
Here's the parable:
Burned Biscuits When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!
Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit. He ate every bite of that thing... never made a face nor uttered a word about it!
When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my Mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burned biscuits every now and then."
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides - a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!"
As I've grown older, I've thought about that many times. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. But what I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is one of the most important keys to creating healthy, growing, and lasting relationships, whether it is between a husband and wife or parent and child or friend-to-friend.
What a great message to teach to your children. How are the burned biscuits going in your family? I hope you take the time to read this entry several times. I have and I seem to have learned something new every time.
Peter, thanks so much for posting this on Facebook. This story provides something we can all and should learn from. It provides a real why for life.
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