I love to find things that I believe are universal truths. Those are the things that it’s hard to argue with, even with an opinionated person like me.
One of those things is about authenticity. I just find that being authentic in what you do is one of the keys to happiness.
Only hang out with authentic people.
This is my number one rule in life. I often find myself at seminars and other educational programs where it becomes what my friend Ellwood Jones calls “The Liars Club.” This is where almost everyone at the meeting lies about how important they are and how big their business is.
When I find myself in these situations, I look for the one or two people who are authentic. They have enough self-confidence that they don’t feel the need to compare themselves with others. They’re just happy in their own skin.
Are you one of those people who’s happy with who they are? I know it’s taken me years to get to the point where I don’t really care what you have. I just care about who you are.
Watch what others do; don’t listen to what they say.
If you’re curious about whether people you’re interacting with are authentic just watch what they do. Then see if it matches up with what comes out of their mouth. If you find the two don’t match up you just might want to find other people to hangout with.
If you decide you do want to hang out with those who are committed to a life of authenticity, then congruence between what you say and what you do is the key to attracting these sort of people into your life.
Do you readily admit where you’re not the best?
At first when I started doing this, it was tough on my ego. How about you? When you tell someone you’re not very good at something how does it feel?
If you’re in a situation where you’re always being judged, then it probably doesn’t feel very good. On the other hand, if you’re with a group who is interested in who you are as a person and not what toys you have, admitting you’re not the best is probably OK.
How do you show up in the world?
If you show up in the world as being flashy, those who are authentic might have a really hard time taking you seriously. I was just at a meeting with some really successful people. Many of them were taking home well over 7 figures a year and a few were taking home 8 figures a year.
If you just met these people on the street you would never know how successful they are. They were more interested in who I was and what I could add to their life than telling me about how successful and how much money they make.
If you’re curious about those around you, I’m going to automatically find you attractive and I bet others will as well. Be curious and show up as one who really cares about what you can learn from others. It’ll make you more fun to be with.
If you’re authentic some aren’t going to like your story.
This is one of the hardest lessons for businesses that we work with to accept. In the business realm being authentic means there’s going to find people who hate your message and have no interest in working with you.
If you and your business doesn’t have that effect with some people, then you’re probably not being authentic. Authenticity requires that you’re honest and as a result some just aren’t going to like or buy what you’re selling.
That’s OK. That just means that those who do, will like it all that much better. For me, I would much rather be in the latter position.
Are you willing to live the rich life?
If you’re willing to really think about being authentic, then you’re ready to start living the rich life. I don’t mean rich in a monetary sense although that could very easily happen. I mean by having great friends who love to see you and you love to see them.
I hope you noticed I used the word love twice in the sentence above. Being authentic allows you to have a loving relationship with all that you interact with and it’ll be safe to do so.
What do you say? Are you willing to take a shot and see what the authentic life means for you? Then a strange thing might happen with you also……your life will get richer.
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